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Scheduled 'hobby time' is key, negotiated with your partner. Maybe there are specific times they are less busy with calls or can work with noise-cancelling headphones. Or perhaps when they take a long lunch break or run errands? Communication and compromise are essential. They need to understand your need for this outlet too.
For drumming, can you invest in an electronic drum kit with headphones? It's a much quieter practice solution. For woodworking, are there quieter aspects of the hobby (planning, finishing, hand-tool work) you can do when your partner needs quiet, and save the power tool use for pre-agreed 'loud' times or when they're out?
We use a shared calendar and my partner blocks out 'Deep Work - No Drums!' times. And I block out 'Drum Practice - Earplugs Advised!' times. It sounds formal but it helps manage expectations and prevents clashes. It's all about respecting each other's needs in a shared space.
Is there a garage, basement, or shed space you could convert and soundproof (even partially) for your noisy hobbies? Creating a dedicated, somewhat isolated space can make a big difference. Or, look into renting a small practice space or workshop slot outside the home if budget allows. Sometimes the only solution is a separate location.
Encourage your partner to also have 'out of the house' time or hobbies. If they regularly go to a gym, meet friends, or have their own external activities, that naturally creates solo time for you at home. It's healthy for both of you to have separate pursuits.
Maybe weekends are the primary time for your loudest activities? If your partner also has weekends off, they might be more tolerant of noise then, or can make plans to be elsewhere for a few hours. It's about finding those win-win slots.
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